Funniest one I heard was about an
would scream regularly to have a
permanently hoarse, interesting
I like the
idea of putting something comical into an
intense drama, and being intense in
absurd circumstances within a comedy.
An addict is like a bad imitation
of a human being.
Addiction is the abdication of
At least we should choose what
we're going to abdicate our choice to!
You’re employed by your
addiction. And it’s an unregulated place
It’s not the doing of the drug –
It’s the doing of the stuff you do to get the
Drugs aren’t a death wish. They’re
a control of your death wish.
For some people it should be said,
you can only commit to what you're
So trick your mind into thinking
to anyone you'd like to commit
You know you have an eating
disorder if after you eat you're never full, just
disappointed. You know you have an eating
disorder if after you eat you're never full, just full
monster who’s starving you.
Drugs may give you your fantasies,
but they never
give you your dreams.
Codependency is feeling your value
is predicated on a willingness to devalue
eat the frozen dinner frozen, or the burning food
behavior is true of all addiction. Alcoholics tell
stories of gulping drinks that have been used as
Annoying girlfriend questions:
What are you
thinking about? What are you drinking
We hate ourselves for what we like:
Relaxing. Too much of a good
Workaholism sounds noble, but it’s
not. It’s sanctioned, but so are many ignoble
Hostility is the aftertaste of
My life is going to kill me. We all
get angry when we realize that. But the anger is
Chicken (of your own)
BODY IMAGE HANG
noticed that many of these skinny actresses have named
their kids after food?
We get names like Apple and Coco
because the mothers are hungry.
They want food in their lives, and
this is the only way they’ll allow themselves to do
A codependent feels their value is
predicated upon a willingness to devalue
I heard a
wise woman once say: "Of course I turn my men into
children. You can love your children even if they
"I’m really good at making friends
with my enemies".
When inseparable becomes
indistinguishable. I tell it like I want to see
CRIME & “JUSTICE”
I have been convicted of a crime I
am guilty of. How often do you hear that?
But in the case of the people
portrayed in that play, they honestly were not
I wouldn’t put it past our legal
system to develop a defense for parents who kill their
own children, saying these parents are experiencing
battered person syndrome Sleepless nights,
Just because they’re prisoners does
not mean they’re criminals.
I believe that if a defense
attorney knows their client’s guilt, and if the crime pattern involved
compulsion, and therefore that person
will re-commit the crime, that
attorney needs to resign during the case,
and if they bring that criminal to
freedom, the attorney has committed a crime, and should
If someone’s evil, they may not
have a conscience, but they do have a psyche.
WHY I GAVE UP WHAT EVER
LITTLE DRINKING I DID:
I knew too many
“What are you drinking
Drink for a
I don’t drink because I might say things I
mean, but don’t mean to
I’m not God,
and I’m not God’s gift.
For a while, the only thing that
made him feel better was to feel
really good becomes torture if you get too much of it.
Take a massage, for
instance. Something you wish could go on forever
can become a form of torture if it
My sinking moods feel like
It’s like a void with nothing to
look forward to.
I’m sure someone watching right now
has seen what I’m talking about.
Life is hell and highs, and
fighting to avoid both.
I've become what I'm up
You don't have to have a common
enemy to find common
I don't exercise. I
Immaturity is not a sign of
I keep inviting people into my life
resenting them for showing
give. I indebt.
First pangs of Depression: 5 years
Mortality = We’re all in love with a dying
Good Life = Guilt over not feeling
With something so widespread as
addiction, compulsion, self-destruction, low
self-esteem, various abuses…Can we call it a
We’re here because unanswered
questions are getting in the way.
I would be the worst at being
around someone like me(My feelings
are easily hurt).
Life finally relieves itself.
Death is so
You can either die from it,
or live through
it. You improve your chances
of having what you love by the practice of loving
what you have.
Wanting things you don't have is a
hard habit to break. And it's not broken by wanting
It's broken by settling
Living without what you
want leads to not having what you
In order to get what you want,
you have to be willing to walk away
from what you don't want.
People embrace life and abhor death
because life begins your opportunity to be remembered.
Death beings the short road towards being
forgotten(Think a thousand years from
Be mad about your kids, instead of
mad at your kids.
MOVIES I LIKE:
*BOWLING FOR COLUMBINE
*CHRISTOPHER GUEST MOVIES
*FLIRTING WITH DISASTER
*HAL ASHBY FILMS
*SCHOOL OF ROCK
*THE BIG LEBOWSKI
*THE DOOR IN THE FLOOR
*THE FAMILY MAN
*ALEC BALDWIN (in
*DIANE LANE (in
Violence clones itself. Don't even
consider hitting your kids.
You might say that
childhood is genetic.
I had two parents who were
children, so I grew up to be a
It’s not your children’s job to
provide a vent for your anger and frustration. If
they are given this job, they will make a career of
Why do people think they can yell
their teenagers into desirable behaviors?
That’s like yelling at a tornado to
can do is
decide what to do to keep ourselves safe, and to learn
as much as we can about this force of
impose on our children prepares them only for that thing
itself....To create that same thing themselves. It does
not prep them to cope with it any better. If we impose
pressure on them, it prepares them only to impose
pressure on themselves, not to cope with pressure. If we
allow them a very un-pressured childhood, that provides
them a way to be at peace. They become un-pressured
people, whether they’re under pressure or not. Children
prepares them for drugs. It doesn’t prepare them to cope
with whatever we’re drugging them
Whatever we impose on our kids
them for more of that thing. If we heap on
the pressure, they keep heaping it on
Pressure doesn’t teach them to cope
with pressure. Quite the
Drugging children prepares them for
drugs. It doesn’t solve whatever we’re
drugging them for.
methods you use to correct your kids become their way of
living, rather than
their means of correction: If you use then to vent your anger,
they will become anger vents, and then you’ll wonder why they end
up with such angry
If you have parents who are
children, you grow up to be a
PHILOSOPHY & PSYCHOLOGY:
talent does not make a comfortable chair, unless you’ve
sat on it your whole life, then it
makes it a dangerously comfortable chair.
There's a difference between being
loyal and being compulsive.
Monster Geniuses: Light up your world from afar ~
Incinerate it up close: Woody Allen, Hemingway, Picasso, JD
It’s a drive home…
Even being madly in love doesn’t
make you Scarlett
Take your sandwich out for
The freeways aren’t free if you pay
with your life. Buckle up.
I don’t hate to toot my own
horn…I’d just prefer someone else toot it.
What we’re all seeking is the whole
syndrome: The hunger (for whatever), the satisfying of
the huger, the hunger
using, seeking the hunger.
people reach outside of marriage, overeat compulsively,
marriage can survive communication.
married during the
I’ve always wanted to
read a blurb about a breakup, and instead of hearing
“there were no second parties involved”, I’d like to
hear an honest answer, like “There were second, third,
fourth and fifth parties
Some people aren't looking for
someone to marry. They're just looking for someone to
direct their anger towards.
crazy doesn’t mean you love women.
It's tricky to both support a
family and care for one. The two types of caring are often
in conflict with each
The two types of caring conflict.
One keeps you
there. The other keeps you there, where you can’t afford to
Alice Millers: FOR YOUR OWN GOOD
& THE UNTOUCHED KEYS
Driven by a need to feel
Some people are marriage addicts ~
Or divorce addicts ~ The full circle or addicted to complaining or to
Parents married multiple times
trying not to
be more trouble than you’re
Learned late about value of having
warm & hot under one roof.
Marriage with children is being in
love with the one person who has the same biggest love
you do ~ That love being your children. That person
being the other parent.
Abused Women are not afraid to
afraid he’ll leave.
Not afraid he’ll come after
We imbue people with all kinds of
wonderful qualities when we are overwhelmed with attraction for
them, and we imbue our marriage
with all kinds of problematic
qualities when sexual familiarity sets
Have you found yourself being
accused of being brutal by a brutal person?
Brutal people tend to feel
comes along and takes their crap. And when they cease to do that, the
brutal person feels like a victim.
Peace Through Parenting:
violence grows up to be big violence.
War is the
wrong response to the challenges of peace.
married couple pulls a gun when discussing their
Why is it
not the same with governments & nations?
could be kept quite busy with rescue missions armed with
food & clean water.
ever notice that war advocates are often pro-life.
So from conception to
17, you’re safe. After
that you go to war to kill and be
rather have a president who has affairs “cause he can”
than a president who
kills thousands of Iraqi, American & other children
The Tsunami of 2004 was not
Iraq was. War
We need a president who helps us
face the challenges of peace, not
War is the wrong response to the
challenges of peace.
I hope our TV screens continue to
show us only forces armed with love and supplies,
instead of those armed with weapons.
The message of the Tsunami is: Make
safe these orphans. Stop creating new
George W. Bush believes, if we
can’t bring slaves here, we’ll go to them.
If all who had the right to vote
were required to see a child die in war, wars would be
waged solely by deranged compulsive sadists, like our
Back to Bush for a sec: he believes
that every fetus should be born only to go kill and die
less than two decades into the life he so magnanimously
insures them...Or to die of curable diseases because he
doesn't believe in the cure. What a
leaders are the true minority.
Iraq isn't a war. It's a war
"We are acting today in the memory
of so many girls and boys who've lost their lives in
innocence in acts of cruelty. No child should ever have to
experience the terror of abduction or
No family should ever have to
endure the nightmare of losing a
signing The Protect Act of 2003.
"Be All That You Can Be" -
The "Pro Life"
Designed to look just like the army
commercial, BE ALL THAT YOU CAN BE, JOIN THE
ARMY...And is the
same, except that we replace the shots the commercial
has of the front lines
with interview excerpts from a
Vietnam soldier's interview about how his troops were
for "double kills", which consisted
of "getting" any pregnant Viet Cong